Physical attractiveness and dating choice
Maybe you really are the good guy who won’t take advantage of her, but she has no way of knowing that when she first meets you. Think about how weird that whole situation is: to be sexually attracted to beings that could so easily do irreparable physical harm to you.
Think about the anxiety that internal contradiction could create on a daily basis.
Men stare at them, leer at them, make crude passes at them, and interact with them all day every day, with sex clearly the subtext of every interaction—even the briefest, most innocuous non-mating exchanges.
While this is just a thought experiment, the facts that underpin it are very real. 166 pounds), and he carries less body fat (18 percent vs.
This is how everything, not just liquor, is sold to men—hand tools, shampoo, Doritos, porn, cars.
All of them shamelessly use beautiful, scantily clad women with big boobs, tight asses and long legs as the vehicles to deliver their message. The problem from a mating perspective (besides the obvious ethical one) is that normal women feel this objectification acutely.
It might temporarily reduce your anxiety about approaching them (about making your pitch), because if you think of them as targets, you can try to trick yourself into thinking that they won’t be judging you when you walk up to them. When you walk in, you encounter an overwhelming sea of men.And it will also help your relationships with your mom, sisters, daughters, female friends and co-workers.They are based on the best, current scientific knowledge that we have about women’s psychology and sex differences.It’s built around the assumption that men and women think alike about sex, romance and dating without even acknowledging the basic physical differences between male and female bodies and the resulting male vs. For instance, if a woman seems like she’s sending “mixed messages,” or acting “hot and cold,” or there’s a mysterious push-me/pull-you erotic dance going on, it’s not that she’s being weird or manipulative (at least, typically).It’s that she’s trying to express interest from a defensive posture, and she’s got a hair-trigger threat-detection system that makes her withdraw into her shell when you start pushing too hard.